When I think of my Uncle Derek I am not only deeply saddened at his passing but my heart goes out to the English based members of my Whanau (family) who are currently suffering the heart break of his loss at this time. My most recent recollection of my Uncle Derek is from a trip I made to England whilst serving in the New Zealand Army in 2012. I stayed with my Aunty Marion and Uncle Derek in Lichfield, prior to visiting my cousin Roger in Liskeard. Uncle Derek struck me as a very kind and knowledgeable gentleman, I was slightly in awe of him and I was proud to be part of his extended family. He made a point of showing me around the area in particular the Cathedral, the historic old part of the city, the Pub where my Grandfather spent sometime (sadly it was closed) and more importantly the location where my Dads ashes are scattered. The last location was very important to me and has always been a fond memory of that trip and gave me some closure, I am forever in my uncle’s debt for that. He even had a set of the Sean Bean, Sharps series ready for me to watch on video and a selection of beers to have with a pre tour brunch if I wanted to partake. As I reflect at this time I am saddened that Mum and Dads decision to move to NZ meant that I did not get to spend more time with my extended family and have opportunities to learn more from such an awesome gentleman and kind soul as my Uncle Derek. But I also understand that at the time they made the decision with the best of intentions and hey, if they hadn’t, I wouldn’t have the NZ family I now have along with my English family aye. If I can offer anything more at this time, it’s this. Even though at present it’s hard to see away forward out of your current grief I promise you it will in time, become easier to live with and you will be stronger for it. Trust me I still think of my Mum and Dad everyday you never forget the loss of some one you love and someone who has had so much impact on your life. You will always think about them and talk about them when you are together. It is that which keeps them alive in our hearts and ensures their legacy lives on as those of us left continue on with all that they have taught us the good and or the bad. Kia Kaha (Be Strong). Tim Witton